05/09/2025
Have you ever felt like it's impossible to talk to your 12-year-old daughter (or just 12-year-old in general)? Oftentimes I find myself negotiating with her. Because she will not settle for my request.
In our home we've created a culture around safety of expression, with boundaries of course.
So often times our daughter will argue her point of view to the end. She's passionate about her Yes, while we are passionate about our No.
It's so important that at this phase of life we are not bringing forward fear to manipulate and control. Instead, we are helping to reinforce our children to know we are on their side, and walk through them through their thought process.
This is important for so many reasons. The most importantly because at the end of the day they're eventually going to become adults. And if you teach them control now, they are going to try and control every situation they're encountered with in the future.
This book, "Loving Our Kids On Purpose,"(by Danny Silk) has really helped us to establish safe boundaries with our children and also learn how to overcome fear-based control in parenting. Take a peek, here are a couple pages that might help you overcome your next "hostage negotiation" 😜
