04/23/2026
I don’t even really know how to explain the past several months.
I just know I didn’t have it together at all (never really have)... but life still had to keep going.
Grieving a loved one comes in waves and shows up in so many unexpected ways through the seasons: sadness, guilt, regret, gratitude, busy-ness, new goals, isolation, avoidance, overperforming, overwhelm...
and for some of us trying to show up here — the big one: imposter syndrome.
I want to share 5 things I have learned during this time:
#1
Grief (or imposter syndrome for that matter) never really goes away, though it might get better for a time or a season.�You just have to keep navigating it — basically confronting it. I’m not the best at that.
#2
Keeping going and moving isn’t always the healthiest if you don’t regularly have (or make) space to process the loss and just be. When you finally do, it takes time.
#3
Grief can magnify or bring back up things you thought you had already resolved or made peace with. It can certainly magnify current life issues or everyday challenges.
#4
Some things (even important things you thought you had a handle on) will fall off your plate in heavy seasons. When they do fall, you won’t be able to pick them up right away. For me, after caring for & teaching (we homeschool) my kids and baking for my customers, I had very little left if anything to give. Don’t be like me, plan for it.
#5
Prayer makes everything better. God has truly been reminding me over and over again that our identity isn’t found in the good seasons, the difficult chapters of life, the achievements or the disappointments. It’s found in the bounties of His unchangeable love for each of us.
You can also mourn seasons, opportunities, relationships, and even something you never had (that you perhaps worked at very much). It can feel quite difficult and isolating.
But, you’re not alone.
