05/31/2026
People think the abuse ends when you leave.
Nobody talks about the abuse that comes after.
My ex was ordered to give me my van in the divorce. The van is legally mine. Yet he still refuses to give me the key.
The same person who has a restraining order against him has entered my vehicle multiple times. I’ve asked the police. I’ve asked his attorney. I’ve asked the courts.
I’ve been trying to get this key back for 1.5 years.
It’s never been about a key.
It’s about power.
It’s about control.
It’s about making sure I never fully feel safe.
People ask survivors why they’re still scared after they leave.
Because sometimes the abuse doesn’t end when the relationship ends. It just changes form.
I left.
I survived.
I won my divorce.
So why am I still fighting for something that was already awarded to me?
Will there ever be a day when I can stop looking over my shoulder and finally feel safe?
