11/21/2024
Just as she was clear on everything else in her life, Mama was clear on how she would like to be remembered. Over the course of her illness, she regaled us with stories from her life, making us laugh and cry in the same sentence. She was a beautiful storyteller, and she used this as a tool to give us insight into her legacy. Mama chose to be cremated and requested that my Tata scatter her ashes in places where she found happiness. She did not want a funeral or a memorial and especially not speeches. Her life was devoted to making everyone else around her feel like the most important person on the planet and she wasn’t about to turn the tables at the eleventh hour. All she wanted was for people to celebrate her life, to find the time to dance and sing, and to enjoy life. One of the few ways I have been able to express my gratitude to my Mama throughout my life was by writing her love letters. It was the only way you could get her to listen to someone gloat about her long enough…by putting your emotions down on paper.
This has been the most heartbreaking time in our lives but because of the power of my Mama’s love she still managed to bring joy to each painstaking day, and she left a lifetime of it here to get us by. I have shared her farewell below in the form of a love letter. It captures a tiny glimpse into her greatness.
My Tata and I decided that the best way to honour her and all of you who loved her, would be to write her a love letter. This is ours, and I invite you to write one too. You are welcome to do so publicly here, or share with us privately, or just write it for yourself and take the time to be with her. I know it’s a bit unconventional for a memorial, but in the best ways possible, she was unconventional. What she would have loved the most about this commemoration is not just that it creates a written archive of her legacy but that it will give you time to hopefully mend your heart just a little. This might not be for you, and most certainly we do not want it to feel like a task. It is just our way of bringing you into our hearts.