That's just how she is. Hold on. You don't even know her.
If I were the lead singer of a band (seriously, how cool would that be), I'd dedicate this one to anyone out there who has ever been judged. Had a label put on them. Overcome adversity. Climbed out of the darkness. Let's be clear here. I know exactly who I am (a work in progress). I know my strengths. I know my weaknesses. I promise you. I know these things better than anyone else does. I also know I've had labels attached to me. You probably will too. I think it's inevitable. It hurts. It makes you question yourself. Which blows.
She is a beautiful piece of broken pottery, put back together by her own hands. And a critical world judges her cracks while missing the beauty of how she made herself whole again.
~ J.M. Storm
That woman you think is snobby because she is quiet and introverted. Well. You don't know what it took for her to get out of bed this morning. You don't know her daily struggles. You don't know that she forced herself to put on a brave face. You couldn't. You just see the outside. She is just trying to maintain. Doing her best to fulfill her responsibilities. There's a reason she is the way she is. Why her heart is missing pieces. It wasn't her fault. You have no idea what she's been through. You may have heard. But. You'll never really know. Maybe you shouldn't have judged.
You see. We all walk around showing just enough of who we are. It's like the tip of an iceberg. You have no idea what lies beneath the surface. This is where judgment and labels come in. They are uneducated guesses by someone who hasn't walked in your shoes. Shameful. But. Know this. There will be people who take the time to learn the reason for all your cracks and scars. Hang on to these people. They will be your support system when the walls start to crumble under pressure. They will remember your beauty even when you feel ugly. And they will remind you of it.
It's easy to judge. How do I know. Because I've done it. It's a crappy quality for sure. You can change anything though. How about trying a little understanding. Some compassion. The way you treat people is more of a statement about you, not them. Here's the truth. Eventually most people will show you who they are (believe them the first time). That is when you may make your decisions about them. Not a minute before. It will be obvious if they will add to your happiness or if they are not worth giving up your happiness.
God knows who you need. Be still and listen. Its really that simple.
So. You don't know who she is. Probably never did. Best to think before you speak. Let's just leave it at that.
love, Your Biggest Fan